Step 10 How to stay connected with our Higher Power, and He becomes victorious over those defects.

 

We see that the term self-restraint is not implying that we can, by power of will and determination, ever control our lusting or force away our own character defects. That is God’s job.
What we can do is develop a healthier response to strong feelings and emotions. In our addiction, we could only ever react to strong feelings. The Steps provide a better answer.
If through working Step Ten our “automatic response” becomes to inventory why we are feeling what we’re feeling and then act on what we discover––either through surrender of an offending character defect to God, or making amends to right a wrong and heal a relationship––then, instead of simply reacting, we become more able to “do the next right thing!”
We are not developing any new power over our defects; we are simply learning how to stay connected with our Higher Power, and He becomes victorious over those defects.

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